My boyfriend wants me to use a masturbation sleeve

Adult Toys, Gender, Social Conventions and Masturbation Sleeves

In recent years there has been nothing short of an explosion of men's sex toys. Cock rings have been around a long time, but the pickings for men have traditionally been very slim. Sure, penis pumps and various other contraptions that are supposed to increase the size and/or girth of the penis are common and have been available for many years. Party favors and novelty items geared toward men have also graced the pages of sex toy catalogs for decades, but advancements in mechanical and material technology as well as a growing acceptance of adult toys in our society have created a huge demand for these items that were once relegated to the fringe of polite society. Sex toys are what they are; a way to supplement your sex life or increase the pleasure and effectiveness of masturbation. We believe wholeheartedly that this is a positive thing. There simply is no argument that this is in any way negative. There can be negative consequences of sexual addiction, dysfunction, or other behaviors that manifest as an unhealthy dependence on adult toys, but those are arguments supporting the importance of good mental and physical health as well as treatment for those suffering from any of these illnesses. Those are not arguments that adult toys are "bad", as many in our society used to believe, and as a certain segment still do.

So now that we've finally updated our morays and are on the road to discarding our old, misguided taboos we can have an adult conversation about sex toys. Both men and women have the opportunity to experiment with items that appeal to them, and there is the potential that a person might find something that works wonders. Women have had this opportunity for several decades, and as a result their options are more extensive than the options available to men. However, this is changing rapidly. Masturbation sleeves are basically just what they sound like - a product that aids masturbation for a man. A standard masturbation sleeve is cylindrical, made of a soft material like jelly, cyberskin or silicone, and has an opening that goes from one end to the other to make cleaning quick and easy. Once erect, the penis is inserted into one opening and surrounded by the soft material. You can see how and why this works. The masturbation sleeve acts as an alternative to a vagina or a hand.

More and more men are finding that using a masturbation sleeve is far superior to their hand. For starters, a masturbation sleeve is more comfortable than a hand. The soft material envelopes the penis much the same as a vagina does, and the material is much softer than the skin found on the palm of the hand. Many men also find that using a masturbation sleeve is easier on the penis than other masturbation methods. Circumcision is very common in the US, and unfortunately the removal of the foreskin as well as other vital sections of the penis during circumcision makes it much more difficult for men to masturbate, and makes it tougher for them to reach orgasm. The foreskin has the highest concentration of "pleasure" nerves by far, and it's set up to bring pleasure by stretching and rolling as it moves back and forth over the head of the penis. Without that skin men are forced to "rub" the shaft and head, which is not nearly as pleasurable as the gliding of the foreskin. This rubbing creates friction, irritation and is simply not the way the penis is supposed to work. The foreskin also protects the sensitive shaft skin and head. When the foreskin is removed, most of the sensitive nerve-containing shaft skin is gone and there is no longer any protection for the head of the penis. The result is that instead of being soft and moist like the lining of the inside of your mouth, the head dries out and becomes desensitized by the constant friction of constant contact with clothing. The result of all this is that men who are circumcised have to work harder to masturbate than men who are not circumcised. Circumcised men need external lubrication to keep from damaging their penis, and they usually have to work much harder to achieve orgasm. Masturbation sleeves solve much of these problems. While nothing short of foreskin restoration can bring back the gliding mechanism of the penis, circumcised men find that the gentle caress of a masturbation sleeve is much more comfortable than their hand. They are also easier to keep lubricated during use, and in the absence of a foreskin they can help prevent the injuries caused by the aggressive masturbation techniques that so many circumcised men are familiar with. Masturbation with a foreskin is primarily gentle with brief periods of quick, aggressive moves. For many men, masturbation without a foreskin is all aggressive and can cause pain, inflammation and damage to the penis.

Adult Toys and Couples

Adult toys are certainly intended for masturbation, which is typically viewed as a solo endeavor. However, there is no limit to how sex toys can be used. One recent study of adults in the US concluded that up to 75% of people surveyed who had used a toy had also used that toy, at one time or another, with their partner. So, it's fair to say that a vast majority of people have experimented with couple play. If "normal" is defined as the norm, and the norm defined by what "most" people do, then using a sex toy with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife is without a doubt normal. Is it right for you? Well that is the true question, and the right question to be asking. To find the answer you will need to look inward. Does the idea of using a vibrator, dildo or other adult toy with your partner intrigue you at all? Is there anything appealing about it? Does the idea completely turn you off and make you want to run for cover? Or, are you somewhere in the middle? Figuring out where you fall on the scale will help you decide what to do. If you like the idea of using a sex toy with your partner but it just never occurred to you, then why wouldn't you give it a try? If you're neutral on the idea, would you be willing to give it a try to see if you liked it? Is the fact that your boyfriend wants to try it enough to open you up to the idea? If you're repulsed by the idea, do you have any ideas why you feel that way? If you can answer any of these questions you should be on your way to figuring out what to do in this situation.

If you decide to give couple play a try and you end up liking it, we think that's great! There are adult toys for couples available beyond masturbation sleeves if you decide at some point that you want to experiment with something new. Maybe the masturbation sleeve experience is a positive one and leads you to want to have your boyfriend use a vibrator on you, or perhaps to have him watch you as you use it on yourself. These are both things that many millions of people do, and it is quite normal. We wish you the best of luck!