Is it normal for men to use vibrators?

The ins-and-outs of vibrator usage

In the past, very close to all vibrators (surely greater than 90%) were designed for women. Women respond extremely well to the vibrating and pulsing action they provide, and vibrators seem to be a better "fit", so to speak, with the anatomy of a woman than with the anatomy of a man.

Many men at some point in their sexual lives experience the feel of a working vibrator on their penis. This usually happens as a result of experimentation with their partner or on their own, and may or may not be pleasurable enough to continue on a regular basis. Women really do respond well to vibrations while men tend to respond to a different type of stimulation. Vibrators, for this reason, have been designed and marketed to women.

Despite the design limitation, or perhaps because of it, some men (as well as some women) enjoy using a vibrator anally. There are a group of very sensitive nerves surrounding the anus that for most people create pleasure when stimulated. These nerves can be easily stimulated with a finger, a tongue, or a vibrator. For many people anal stimulation is a tool in their sexual arsenal, and it is a normal part of their erotic experience.

Now this is fine for some, but there are others who don't find pleasure in anal stimulation. The people in this category typically don't use vibrators anally, and they don't enjoy having their anus manually stimulated. For these people it would be abnormal to engage in anal stimulation. It just wouldn't be any fun.

So where does this leave us? Easy. What is normal depends on who you ask. There isn't anything inherently abnormal about either men or women using a vibrator. There are women who don't enjoy vibrators at all, and there are men who love them. The standard rules of behavior apply here: if something is done to excess there may be a problem. If it hurts someone there is a problem. If it interferes with normal daily life there is a problem.

Vibrator usage is a matter of personal choice. There are some men who don't like their female partner using a vibrator. They fear that the vibrator is taking their place, or that it can perform better than they do. And there are some women who don't like their male partner using a vibrator. They may fear that it is abnormal, or that it means that they might be gay.

While these fears could be a reality, the mere fact that a man or woman is using a vibrator doesn't make them so. The woman could be using a vibrator because she is dissatisfied with her male partner. On the other hand, the more likely scenario is that she is simply enjoying the sensations it provides. The man could be acting out repressed homosexual fantasies. On the other hand, it's more likely that he just likes the way it feels.

If there is any question or doubt about what is behind a certain behavior the only way to ever find out is to ask.