How can I have a clitoral orgasm during intercourse?

A Visitor Asks...

"I have a small clitoris and I'm wondering how I can reach orgasm during intercourse with my husband?"

Your question leaves me wondering about the actual size of your clitoris and your response to clitoral stimulation. Regardless, there are a few things you can do to increase the chance of having a clitoral orgasm during intercourse.

We've attempted to address this issue thoroughly in the following article. If you have any questions after reading it please let us know!

The clitoris

Although you may consider your clitoris to be "small", the clitoris has approximately 7,000 extremely sensitive nerve endings, regardless of size. Some women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and some do not - it really depends on the individual and their unique response to sexual stimulation. I can't tell from your question where you fall in the spectrum of sexual response. That being said, there are actions you can take to increase the chance of experiencing a clitoral orgasm during sexual intercourse.

The clitoris is found in an ideal spot for stimulation during sexual intercourse. Your partner will naturally press against it if you are lying on your back and he is on top of you. Many women find that this type of "indirect" stimulation is not enough to bring them to orgasm. If this is the case with you, there are a few things you can try.

Manual Stimulation

You may benefit from manual stimulation during intercourse. Either you or your partner could try stroking and rubbing your clitoris during intercourse. If you are in the "Missionary Position", try positioning yourselves so that you, or he, can reach your clitoris and go from there. There are, however, other positions that would give you and your partner better access to your clitoris. With your partner lying on his back, try straddling him from above. You will have better access to your clitoris the more "upright" you are. For example, if you could sit straight up or even lean backwards a bit both you and your partner would find it easy to stimulate your clitoris. Another position that lends itself to manual clitoral stimulation is the "doggy-style" position, where your partner enters you from behind. You can experiment with different varieties of this position, and I think you'll find that many of the variations allow you to easily reach your clitoris.

It's also worth mentioning that sex toys might help you reach orgasm as well. A vibrator will feel good for both you and your partner during intercourse, and you can really get creative with them. Small clitoral vibrators such as the Little Bunny, Micro Dolphin, Rockin' Rabbit and others can be used for clitoral or vaginal stimulation and they can even be used on your partner. The Dolphin Erection Arouser is also a favorite for couples. It can be worn around the penis, providing clitoral stimulation for you and general stimulation for him. Vibrators are a normal and healthy part of lovemaking for many couples. A vibrator, when used strategically, can greatly enhance orgasms and improve the quality of your love life.