Difficulty having clitoral orgasms: Is my clitoris insensitive?

When I touch my clitoris I don't get much pleasure

Some women experience pleasurable sensations when their clitoris is rubbed, licked or pressed. For some it's a natural response that requires no effort. For others, it's something that takes time and practice. I've heard many women say that they've worked for months if not years on their masturbation and self-exploration techniques to get to the point where they can have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. There are still other women whose clitoris is either too sensitive to enjoy direct contact, or who just plain prefer G-Spot orgasms to clitoral orgasms. It's probably a bit too overly simplistic to assume that clitoral stimulation will automatically cause a woman to orgasm.

Achieving clitoral orgasms - what you can do

If you're interested in achieving a clitoral orgasm there are a few things you can do. It sounds like you find some satisfaction in touching your clitoris, and that you may benefit from getting to know yourself and your clitoris' response to touch. I would recommend starting with masturbation, but involving your partner would work as well if you created an atmosphere of trust and exploration. Simply put, your goal is to find out what you like, and how your clitoris responds to touch. Relax, do what you need to do to become aroused and interested in sex, and begin your experimentation. Start by touching your vagina. You may want to experiment with different pressures, angles and strokes. Try inserting your fingers into your vagina while simultaneously stimulating your clitoris. Sex toys can also be helpful and may provide a little extra stimulation. Be mindful of what areas are pleasing to you and what kind of touch your clitoris responds to. Remember that there are no wrong answers, and that whatever you find is OK. Get to know your clitoris and how it responds to touch.

It may take some time to get to the point of achieving a clitoral orgasm. You may find that after several (or perhaps many) exploratory sessions you've found a few techniques that you enjoy. It might be a specific way of rubbing, squeezing, pinching or pulling that turns you on. Go with what works and continue your experimentation. Many women find that over time they are able to cultivate a technique or routine that works for them.

Another thing to keep in mind is that not all women have clitoral orgasms. There are many women who experience orgasms through G-Spot stimulation, either manually or with a sex toy. These women describe their orgasms in a way that indicates that they are just as satisfying to them as clitoral orgasms are to women who have clitoral orgasms. The qualities of a clitoral vs. G-Spot orgasm seem a bit different - G-Spot orgasms are typically described using words like "deep", "relaxing" and "powerful", while clitoral orgasms are often described as "intense", "rapid" and "cerebral". It's possible to experience both types of orgasm, but women who have orgasms typically gravitate towards one or the other. Again, there is no wrong answer here. Any orgasm is a good orgasm, and any woman can either work to achieve one or refine their ability to have one.