Making Anal Sex Safe and Fun

Using Common Sense

Probably the most important points to remember when experimenting with anal sex is that you should use slender objects, go slow, and use common sense. Pain is always a good indication that you should slow down and re-evaluate your approach. Keep things pleasurable, use common sense, and never insert anything into your anus that might be difficult to retrieve! It's not uncommon for people to end up at their local emergency room after "losing" an object in their anus. Always use sex toys that are designed for anal use. Body parts are obviously safe...just use your head.

Manual Stimulation

There are many objects that can be used to safely stimulate the anus. A finger, tongue, penis, sex toys...you name it. If you're thinking about trying anal stimulation, body parts are probably the best place to start. Fingers are good because they're soft and are about the right size. Be sure to clip your fingernails before you start. You don't want to tear the sensitive tissue of the anus and rectum. If you're thinking of using something other than your body parts, my first suggestion would be to try an anal sex toy. They're designed for this purpose, so they're a safer choice than other objects. Whatever you use, be sure it's slim, smooth and flared at the base.

Lubrication

You might also want to have some lubrication nearby. Anal sex can be difficult or even impossible with no lubrication, so it's always a good idea to have some handy. Any of the commercially available sex lubes will work. Astroglide and Astroglide Gel work particularly well, but K-Y, I-D Lube, Wet Platinum Waterproof Lubrication and Anal-Eze all work well too. If you don't have access to any of those products, there are alternatives. Vegetable oils will work fine, but they are a bit messy and might stain any fabric they come in contact with. If you use vegetable oils you might want to put a towel down underneath you, or put an old pair of sheets on the bed. Vaseline also works, but it's not as slippery as the other lubes.

Where to Start

So you've decided to try stimulating your anus, or your partner's anus. Now the question is where to start. The answer is fairly easy, yet complicated. Obviously, we're talking about the anus here, so you want to start "there". You might want to start my slowly massaging the anus with your finger, or your tongue. If you have lubrication now is a good time to apply it. Dab a little on your finger and gently rub it around the anus. The recipient should be relaxed and comfortable. Easing into anal play is never a bad idea - it might take a little time before the person is ready for anal penetration. If you or your partner has decided to experiment with anal penetration, try slowly inserting a finger, or sex toy. If you or your partner feel any pain, stop right away. The anus can stretch, but it has it's limits. You might be going too fast. Slow down a bit, continuing to stimulate the area. It helps when the person who's anus is being stimulated is relaxed.

Is it Safe?

Anal stimulation can be safe, and it can be unsafe. It all depends on how you go about it. Some guidelines for safe anal play: Number one - never go beyond what's pleasurable. You should always stop immediately if you or your partner experience any pain. Always use objects that are designed for anal play. Sex toys should be flared at the base. Some anal vibrators are very long and have a long power cord extending from the base. These are probably OK if you're careful. The anus is capable of powerful contractions - particularly during orgasm - so use your head! No small objects that could get lost. Always use lubrication, especially if you're new to anal play. It's easy to tear the sensitive tissue around the anus, so lube up. If you don't have lubrication, try using some saliva.

Anal play can be intensely pleasurable. Listen to your body, or your partner. Do what works for them, and be safe!