How to Introduce a Sex Toy to Your Body Vibe Body Vibes Q&A Partner

Honesty is the Best Policy

First let me say that I think Its fantastic that you are open to the idea of bringing sex toys into a relationship. Many couples have found that adult toys are a good way to keep their sex lives new and exciting.

Usually there is no problem introducing a sex toy into a relationship. Most often partners are aware of what the other person would or wouldn't be into trying. With a little honest and open communication things will likely move quickly & you'll be enjoying new experiences with your partner in no time.

You may be in a relationship though where you're not sure exactly how your partner will react to the idea of using a sex toy. You may have never talked about it with them, or you may recall them changing the subject or brushing it off when the topic of adult toys came up. Now you're left wondering how they might react to your desire to try something new in the bedroom.

The good news is that unless your partner has a specific aversion to sex toys they'll probably be willing to at least experiment with you. You always want to approach the subject openly, honestly and in a positive way. Communication is the best way to prevent any misunderstandings or hurt feelings. Start off by asking if they've ever thought about using a sex toy. If you're unsure how they'll react, it's a good idea to bring all this up before you buy a toy. Surprising your partner with your new sex toy might be fine, but it might not be a good idea if they're not as open to the idea as you are. Use your judgment - it's always better to err on the side of caution.

Work Together

If your partner is open to the idea of using a sex toy you can start by browsing sex toy catalogs with them. Explore the categories together & find out what interests them, and consider what interests you. It might be a learning experience for both of you. Starting off with an online catalog or a print catalog is better than dragging your partner to the local sex toy shop. Browsing online in the privacy of your own home is going to be much less stressful for the uninitiated sex toy user than cruising the isles of an unfamiliar and intimidating sex toy store. There are reputable sex toy stores out there, but they're hard to come by.

Once you have an idea of what interests both of you separately, you will likely have a good idea which toy you want to try together. Is there one particular toy that appeals to both of you? Did your partner find something that he or she would like for themselves? Once you've both seen what's available you will likely have a good idea where to go from there.

Just remember that using a sex toy with a partner should be mutually satisfying. If you find something your partner absolutely hates, you probably would be best using it by yourself, and fining another toy to use together. Work together in the beginning and you're more likely to enjoy smooth sailing in the future.